Tammi Pickle, Elite Matchmaker and VP of a private elite dating agency discusses finding love in her most recent article in Fete Lifestyle Magazine
Tammi’s 5 tips that tell you the person you're dating is not ready to move forward.
- They don’t call or contact you very often. If a person is into you they are going to contact you and want to be with you. Someone that is interested will make the effort to be with you and you will be their priority.
If someone you’re interested in isn’t making an effort and wanting to see you regularly, they probably are dating other people. They might like you but probably not intersted enough to be with you enough to make you happy. Someone who truly cares about you should give you quality time, attention and should let you know they care and that you’re on their mind. They should let you know that you’re important. If they consistently don’t set up future dates or have solid dates set up with you, then there’s a serious lack of interest. You need to think about what you really want to do. We all know it takes three seconds to send a text. No one is too busy to tell someone they care about them and that they are thinking about them. If you’re having these hurtful issues you should tell the person you care about how you’re feeling and see if they can change. It’s highly unlikely but it couldn’t hurt to try. If they can’t make the changes soon, than it’s simple time to end it. No one should waste their life and energy with someone that doesn’t care enough to spend time and make them a top priority.
- The person you care about only makes last minute plans to see you and never discusses a future with you.
If you have been dating this person for a year and they haven’t discussed a future life together, then they are not that serious. You shouldn’t fool yourself into believing that they are too busy to be with you. People in real relationships make plans, want to be together and care about the other person’s feelings. It’s of major importance that couples discuss the most important things they want in life. Discuss getting together with friends, relatives and introducing your children. If you have a real relationship then you should be discussing future vacations and a life together. No one can read your mind, and you need to tell person you’re in love with how you feel. If the situation doesn’t quickly improve, you should move on.
- Are they excited about you or fizzling out?
In the beginning they called and wanted to see you almost every day. But then you don’t hear a word from them for 3 weeks. This simply means, you are not at the top of their important list. There should naturally be a progression to being together more, not less.
That happens in a serious relationship. Everyone has things that get in the way:
business, family, children, friends and everyone’s life is busy and different. The person you care about simply should want to spend their off time with you or they don’t. Again, let them know if you’re not happy and see if they can make a change. Many people are happy with a couple texts here and there, and maybe seeing their love interest once a week. But most people require more attention. You need to be honest with yourself and with the person you care about.
- They still seem attached to their ex.
They continue to talk about their ex and all the mistakes they made. They are no longer confident about the place they are in life or what they are really want in a relationship. They talk a lot about an ex in a bad way and harbor a lot of resentment.
Our matchmakers at Elite Connections review their clients past dating history to decide if they truly want to be in a real relationship. They ask about relationships and why things don’t work out. Talking a lot about an ex clearly shows they may not be in the proper mental space for a new relationship. To start a new relationship you
have to be over the past and ready to love someone new. Most people hold onto demons from the past. If the ex discussions are constant after months of dating someone, they clearly are not ready to commit to someone new. Don’t waste your time on someone that’s not ready for love.
- The L word is not spoken.
If you’ve been intimate and together for months and they can’t say they “love you”, it’s a bad sign. Furthermore, if they feel awkward and don’t want to discuss this important issue and examine your relationship, there’s a serious problem. They might be uncomfortable and awkward being committed to you. If you’re saying, "I love you." and the other person can’t say the same without being forced, you’re in a one sided relationship. You should have a serious sit down and talk about where your relationship going. If the person you care about avoids this discussion, you should consider letting them go. It’s bad to force them into saying saying that they love you. If it can’t happen naturally, you should consider moving on. Read Tammi Pickle’s entire article….https://joom.ag/uPWd/p44
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