ADVICE FOR FINDING LOVE BY A PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKER

Each person has skills that they excel at, just as there are skills that they are not necessarily good at. There is no one person that is perfectly good at everything or is a fountain of infinite knowledge. That being said, when looking for advice or help in a specific subject, it’s a good idea to consult with a professional in the matter. Therefore, if you’re looking for dating advice who better to learn from than an international matchmaker from Elite Connections International, who have successfully matched thousands of singles for over 26 years. With all of their years as industry professionals, the elite matchmaking agency has garnered expertise on the subject of love. The following are 10 essential dating tips for finding love from the professional matchmakers themselves.  

1. Update your way of dating: Times are changing, especially with the consistent advance in technology. Most singles that have gone through many horrible dates or several heartbreaks, tend to want to give up on dating and instead follow the saying, “If you stop looking, they will find you.” This is reminiscent of so many romantic comedies, where the heartbroken woman catches a quick glimpse with a man who becomes the love of her life. The odds of this happening is extremely low. No one is going to come fish you out of the water, you have to step out and find love yourself if that is truly what you want. Singles are exploring their options both online and off. Your special someone is out there looking for you, but you have to step out and look for the person too before someone else finds him or her first. 
2. Switch up your daily routine: you should not keep going to the same spot every day. Instead, change it up and choose a new route to work, visit new places, travel to uncommon areas, chat with new people, or join a new group of friends. Stepping outside of your comfort zone can change your story for good. Albert Einstein said it best, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” If something isn’t working for you, change it! Explore new cities near you, attend parties and visit different coffee shops for your daily caffeine fix. If you are tired of the way you look, update your hair or clothing style to show off who you truly are. 
3. Be real and serious: If you want a serious meaningful relationship, you must change your attitude and thoughts about a relationship. Acting like a playboy or playing games will not allow someone to take you seriously. Also, when you are looking for a match, your preferences should not be based on fantasy. The perfect person does not exist, so setting unrealistic standards is not helpful and will only prolong the process. Let’s say you do find the person with the exact attributes you’re looking for, who’s to say you fit their preferences? Just as you have high expectations in a match, so do the people in that category; two people with high standards may not mix well. 
4. Leave a good impression on your date: They say you only have one chance to make a good first impression. This may not always be the case, but you should still try to put your best foot forward. While on your date, you should be nice, easy going, funny, and relaxed. The first date should not feel like an interview and be too serious. It should be lighthearted and fun, in order to leave a lasting impression. Even if you two are not meant for each other, at least the memories you share during the date will be positive. Make sure you do not go into too extreme of conversation topics on the first date, in order to avoid causing a rift in your first impression.
5. Look in the mirror: The Law of Attraction states that you will attract into your life whatever you focus on and give your energy and attention to. If you focus on all the negative things in your life, you will continue to see and attract negativity. Your personality determines the type of person you will attract. Take a hard look in the mirror and look at what you are putting out into the universe. Work on being positive and happy so you can attract someone that matches your positive vibes.
6. Beauty is not everlasting: Do not use physical beauty as a reason to be in love with someone. Beauty does not last forever and people’s looks will change as they grow older. If beauty is the only thing attracting you to your partner, what happens when that beauty fades? Would your love for them fade as well? Think about your friends, be it at your workplace, school, etc. What was it that attracted you to them? Even if they are beautiful, that was never the criteria that made you choose them as friends. It was their attitude, strength, character, ability, or way of life. These should also be the type of things that you look for in a partner for a lasting relationship. Beauty is important, as you should be attracted to your significant other in a sense, but it should not be the priority. 
7. Hold on tight: Once you meet the one you are connected to in all aspects of life, hold onto them, keep them close, treat them like a king or queen, and be proud of them. Treat them as if they are the only person in the world. Everyone enjoys a little ego boost. Show them that you know what you want and that it’s them. Prioritize trust and your bond will strengthen. This is the main trait that separates the boys from the men. Maturity should always take precedence.
8. Never force a relationship: It’s one thing to stay in a relationship longer than you want to and another to force pushing a relationship forward. If you do not want to be with someone anymore, don’t drag it out. Do them a favor and end it in a respectable way. Also, just because of peer pressure or you think you are getting older, you shouldn’t force marriage on someone. It makes you look desperate and can hinder the relationship. Marriage is a commitment between two people and giving someone an ultimatum will make the marriage start off on the wrong foot.
9. Always ask questions: Most women have an issue of jumping to conclusions, but men are simple creatures whose actions rarely are what we think they are. If you have an issue, ask them to clarify their reasoning or purpose. If you have a problem with something, explain it well. Never judge based on your own assumption. Do not assume they know because you think it’s obvious, majority of the time it’s not.
10. Ask for help: Visit Elite Connections International for up to date advice and guidelines to follow. Read blog posts written by our professional matchmakers about topics that interest you. Our elite matchmaking agency has been in business for decades and has an A+ business rating with the BBB. It doesn't matter where you live, an international matchmaker can help you wherever you are. Join our elite matchmaking agency today to have us find your match!

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